Why I leave every wedding in tears
Over the past 3 years I've had a front row seat to over 50 couples wedding day. Over 50 unique stories. A hundred souls, joining their forever loves. Each day is so different, holding elements that set them aside from all of the rest. But regardless of how different and unique and special each day is, there are the same thoughts I catch myself thinking as I drive home from each wedding.
First, let me set the scene. I get to my car, it's normally dark, I turn some music down low and crank the windows down. I take a few minutes to just b r e a t h e. Because let me tell you something, I am wiped. You better believe I just poured everything I had into your day- mentally, physically, emotionally. I am gross, my hair is a hot mess, and I immediately am searching for the lukewarm Gatorade I have stashed just for this occasion. I pull onto the road and start driving away and every time, without fail, the tears come. The moment I am alone and have time to process, I know I will cry. Before you get concerned for my mental well being, I'm a crier. Like, hand to God, if you know me well at all you know that crying is just something I do. But these tears are meaningful to me, and represent something I strive for in my business- authentic connection with my clients. So here are the reason I welcome these tears.
Y O U R S T O R Y I S B E A U T I F U L
I'm not just saying this. I can honestly look you in the eye and tell you that every single love story I have had the honor of photographing has taken my breathe away. For each couple, this beauty may come out in different ways. The way they giggle together while telling the story of how they met. The way he asks how she's doing at LEAST 80x the day of the wedding. The way they sneak away together for quiet kisses and long hugs. The way they look at each other, and touch together, and invest in each other. This couple has found the one whom they have hoped and dreamed for, and on this day, they make that commitment to each other. That is always beautiful.
T H I S D A Y W A S I M P O R T A N T
This day may very well have been one of the most important days of your life. This will be the day your tell your children and grandchildren. The joy and love you felt this day will be what you look back on and cling to when the days get hard. This day you made promises that will define your life and shape your future. This day, though filled with laughter and joy, is one of the weightiest days of your life. Don't think the importance of this day was missed by me, I notice and I care. I spend months preparing for your wedding, but not just in ways that relate to photography. I think of my couples daily, I pray and send every positive vibe I have often. I care so much that your wedding day is everything you want it to be, but even more than that, I care so much that your marriage is one that brings you to life and grows you every day of your life.
I A M S E L F I S H
OK, this is me being so honest with you, I am so selfish when it comes to work. I get SO much joy from what I do and I fight to keep that joy in my life. When couples book me for their wedding we are often looking at 9, 12, 18 months of working together. There is a year and a half of texts, and emails, facetimes and phonecalls. I've gotten to know you as well as I can so I can photograph your day with an honesty that screams it belongs to you. While I remain friends with most of my clients (insert praise hands), I know this day marks the end of a collaboration that I have adored. I will shed a few selfish tears for that, and no one can stop me.
I used to feel so odd when these tears came. I attributed it to long days, and 12 hours of physical work. I blamed my introverted self, and told myself that the better I got, the less my tears would fall. Now, I welcome this time after every wedding. I welcome this connection I share with my clients and realize that this reaction is my honest, genuine way to close this chapter with my clients. I invite my clients to share their life with me with authenticity and without fear, why would I expect any less from myself?
How do you end important chapters in your life? I always love hearing how different people respond!
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